The three F’s in Foundation.
April 15th, 2007
Faith
After the past few years of solid long-term relationships I think I may have finally figured it all out!
There’s a few obvious requirements for relationships to work out. Some of the less obvious issues or benefits won’t be obscenely obvious initially, but here are a few that I consider the foundation of any relationship (for me).
Up to plate first is friendship.
In any relationship, whether platonic or romantic there needs to be some semblence of connection. Friendship is the ability to ‘get along’, care for the other person and in most cases find common activities and discussions that interest you.
Surprisingly enough I have been through a relationship (or two) where I don’t think I could have gotten along with the other person had we not been dating. Odd, eh?
Onto the next one.. forgiveness. A tough one for most it seems. Perhaps it’s a female thing (someone prove me wrong) but throughout my last two relationships one common ‘feature’ was the other parties incessant ability to bring up the past nearly daily.
Only destruction resulted: There’s a point (I hope) where it’s better to let previous problems dissipate to allow some room for the new ones. Mistakes will be made, humans are mistakes waiting to happen.
Forgiveness is the ability to put aside your own feelings (to some degree) and give the other party another chance. As a guy, I know all too well that I’m going to make mistakes.
Yes, I may say your ass looks a tad too big in that dress once in awhile ;) (kidding, I’ll always lie!)
Relationships have massive amounts of potential but each party has to make sacrifices in order for them to work. No two, entirely different people are going to click and be able to function.
Last but most certainly not least (for me) is faith. Faith is something that has been deeply ingrained in me since my childhood.
This life is worthless without a greater cause. The rat race isn’t something I want to be involved in if it’s only for my own benefit.
The other party in any relationship with me would have to be open to my faith, believe in it or partake in it. Faith tends to bring out conflicts later on in relationships, e.g. when children start popping out so it’s best to have them all resolved long before then.
My three F’s.
There’s a number of other minuscule reasons a relationship will or won’t work. Intelligence levels, compatibility and common interests play a large part. Even little things (seemingly little) like financial responsibility and spending habits can play a massive role in whether things will go beyond dating.
That’s all for today’s class kids!