Before delving too deep, I’d just like to explain the premise for the topic. Earlier this week I was having a conversation with my father about relationships, marriage & all that jazz (Blues, most of the time).
I was attempting to grasp a few ideas from him regarding marriage primarily. How to choose, whom to choose & what makes a woman marriage worthy, anyways? Given that he’s been in a fairly solid marriage longer than I’ve existed, I thought he would be a prime target for information extraction….
What he said kicked my little deck of cards over. He asked me to look at it from a logistical perspective. Eek, logistics?! Logic?! Logic escapes most relationships & especially me.
For a number of years I had been on a quest for butterflies and sparks .. and he had just requested that I look at it from the perspective of logic. Would she be a great mother? Would she be firm in faith? Would she make a wonderful ‘partner in crime’ for the remainder of your life?
Whoops. Out the window went all my preconceived notions on what love was. I’ve been on a quest for sleeping beauty, butterflies with sparks (flaming butterflies aren’t all that cool, though) and a princess for this frog all this time..
A’las, should I be seeking caterpillars instead? A love that flourishes & grows with time or some ‘big bang’ style cataclysm of love that lights the fuse of my heart?
So.. anywhom. That’s the premise of it all. Damn.
The logistics of it all.
Logically speaking marriage these days probably shouldn’t be an option even in the oven, let alone on my plate. It’s expensive and the majority of them end in a sudden combustion with more sparks than they started off with.
According to the majority of statistics floating around, a large majority of marriages end in divorce. In fact, I’d put my money on a new business (with an average rate of failure hovering at 90%, supposedly) than on a marriages’ success.
Statistics are pliable though and there is quite a bit of dispute in the actual rates. The US Census Bureau’s statistics on divorce don’t look all that ugly, here’s some of the basic output:
http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsUS.shtml
Here’s an interesting look at ‘the other side’ of the fence (I never did like white picket fences, maybe picket lines instead..):
http://www.divorcereform.org/nyt05.html
Not half bad in actuality. Odds worth betting on, not quite but worthy of reconsideration at the very least.
Anyways, this is where I got bored and halted writing. My original topic that I was heading towards was the effect of Hollywood on our notions of love.. e.g. seeking some impossible love when in actuality we should be on a quest for the possible, logical relationships. What an odd tangent but for now I’m bored of the topic. ADHD for the weeen!
Discuss .. or something.
No comments yet, be the first!